Trusting in Words

Trust is earned. Trust can be eroded through constant acts of deception. Trust might exist in one party, yet be totally absent in another even though there is an expectation of trust. Trust can easily be betrayed. Perhaps, it is that we trust too easy and being a good person we believe in the inherent goodness of mankind. This moral position is not wrong but it is naïve and should be offered with caution when dealing with someone or something you do not know.

Defined as the unquestioning belief in the integrity of a thing or person, trust can be masked with undefined intent especially if the two parties involved do not operate within the same definition. There may be limits or perimeters of trust from all encompassing to slim, bordering on nil. There is an expectation of trust when you are dealing with a business, however, if you do not know how the business operates, then trust should only be handed over when you can determine how the entity and its operators define trust. Trust should never be blindly placed over the Internet or phone.

I had a recent conversation with a very pleasant woman who was referred to me by a current author published under Dream Write Publishing. Because she was referred by someone she “trusts” there was a tendency to place her trust in me, based upon that referral. I appreciate the author’s belief in me that she would trust I’d be someone who could help her friend. This woman’s revelation to me of how she was treated by others in whom she placed blind trust was disturbing. It upset me to know that someone out there could take advantage of this woman and her writing. Yes, it seemed this woman was too trusting and especially with strangers whom she did not know well enough to realize their intent. Integrity is high on my company list; apparently it was not on theirs.

This woman has an immediate connection with words and finds it easy to write fluent quotes or inscriptions even while having a conversation with someone, and will write them about that particular person. It is like she has a sense of that person and pulls the best of them out to include in her words. Her trust is a personality trait that has duality of both positive and negative. It is beneficial to rely on this intuitiveness for creativity but it is detrimental to be too trusting for she believes as I have stated above – in the inherent good of mankind.

There were a couple of incidents which she shared with me, where she submitted the words she had written to parties who feigned interest in her and her work. This trust was betrayed, in that those parties in question published them and took credit for them! This, in my books personally and professionally, is beyond wrong. A writer owns their words if they creatively bore them and in no case should there ever be any exception or question to giving credit when credit is due. Ghost-writers are, of course, exempt here because you take on that project with payment for writing words that are not publicly claimed to be yours.

How can someone be so insignificant and creatively challenged that they would steal someone’s words, having asked her to repeat them so they could record them? If you cannot write your own words, perhaps, you should consider hiring a ghost-writer! Or better yet, don’t write anything because really, how can we trust what you have to say?

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